If one chooses to raise a child,
the birthmother should consider what plans and dreams she has for her own future
and whether these plans can still be achieved while caring for an infant. Will
the birthmother be able successful raise that child? Can she complete her
education? What support is available for her and the child? Is family support
available? How will she and the child live? Have arrangements been made for
child care while working?
If the birthmother chooses to place the child for adoption she must consider how
this decision will effect her in the future. Will she be at happy with her
decision? Is adoption in the best interest of everyone involved? Does the
adoption plan sound possible to achieve? Many issues should be addressed before
making a decision for adoption. A professional counselor is in position to be
objective about these choices. It is often difficult to discuss adoption with
relatives and people who are close to you. It is always helpful to discuss and
possible choices with friends and family which should also be consulted. The
most objective information will come from an adoption professional.
Prospective Adoptive Parents
It is also very helpful for prospective adoptive
parents looking to adopt to speak with a professional counselor. There are many
issues related to adoption which are best addressed prior to pursuing an
adoption. Are both spouses ready to accept a child into their homes and
understand the responsibility of raising a child? Do they accept this
responsibility? Are they prepared to adopt a child sometimes with little prior
knowledge? Have they both dealt with the issues regarding their own inability to
have biological children? Have considerations been made for adoption a child of
a different race, color, ethnic background, etc.
Counseling is generally not expensive and most counseling is covered by health
insurance carriers. Also in some areas birthmothers are able to receive adoption
counselors through local agencies at no charge. You can check with various
county or state agencies to see if this is available in your area. When an
adoption plan does proceed, most states mandate that the adoptive parents are
responsible for the cost of professional counseling if it is not otherwise
covered by health insurance.
The following are able to help in finding a counselor,
attorney, physician/or health care provider, clergy, family planning centers ,
crises pregnancy centers and school guidance counselors.
In the yellow pages you can look
under adoption/family counselors, mental health services, Social and Human
services, Certified Social Workers, psychologists, pregnancy counseling.